June 3, 2022

40. How to Overcome the Habits of Self Sabotage, with Dr. Candice Seti

Founder of Me Only Better, Dr. Candice Seti - aka The Weight Loss Therapist - is a psychologist, author, and online coach. She specializes in working with individuals struggling with weight loss and weight management, as well as providing eating disorder and insomnia treatment.

Oftentimes, the pressure we feel from outside forces changes our way of thinking about ourselves, and we develop habits that get us stuck in those false beliefs. So how do we break free from these negative habits and learn to replace them with habits that help us to achieve our goals?

Dr. Candice explains what the fear of change is, avoidance conflict approach, and how staying in the comfort zone is our main enemy. Recognizing what sounds good on paper versus what actually fits for our lives is a first step forward.

Candice shares her experiences from her therapy practice, and assures us that therapy allows us to get guidance, direction, and a space to find our internal answers. It’s truly the best place where you can be truly yourself.

Adrienne and Candice also discuss self sabotage, weight loss, fear, and all of the aspects standing in our way of success. This sweeping conversation poses the questions - Is entrepreneurship for everyone? What choices do women entrepreneurs often make without knowing? And, are we ready to make long term life choices?

🤗 Memorial Day weekend is a great time for hugging your loved ones. 01:36

📒 Candice provided the UNBREAKABLE retreat with amazing workbooks about self sabotage. 02:11

👩‍⚕️ All of Candice’s specialties: Working with eating disorder population, weight & sleep management, and self sabotage. 03:09

😣 Pressure accumulates and changes our relationship with ourselves and things surrounding us. 05:38

😳 Fear of change: So much of our self sabotage is rooted in keeping ourselves comfortable. 07:03

🦺 The avoidance conflict approach: internally we’re drawn toward safety even if we don't like our position. 08:44

🕵️‍♀️ Recognition as a first step: when behavior is in conflict with the thing we want. 09:35

🎯 Our modes of self sabotage are habitual: replacing habits takes time. 12:50

👩‍💻 Self sabotaging entrepreneurs: factors that create fear of success and fear of failure. 16:54

🌞 When our needs don’t get met: looking inside to find what are our needs. 20:47

👀 Perception is probably 95% of the game: identifying values and trade offs. 22:20

👠 When women get stuck: career, family, and changes in life trajectories are normal. 23:26

🤷‍♀️ Entrepreneurship is not for everyone: what works for different personality types. 25:41

🧑‍🎓 College and grad school students don’t know who they are and what they want, so self reflection on Adrienne’s classes is essential. 27:24

🤩 Making long-term decisions without self assessment and self understanding is hard: we need this part in our educational and career path. 29:41

🤓 Successful career changes perspectives: look at your strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes. 31:35

🤝 Living and working as an entrepreneur with the things you don't like: power of acknowledgment and delegation. 33:59

🦸‍♀️ Confidence is a critical component to starting your own business. 35:43

↗️ Power of sharing in therapy: place, time, and space that is all about you in an unbiased, judgment-free environment. 37:11


Connect with Dr. Candice: www.meonlybetter.com

👉 Connect with Adrienne: www.sheleadsmedia.com